I had to embrace change, because I screwed the quotes up. I have now fixed them.

Change isn't easy nor a simple matter even when it comes to the day to day (or especially the day to day.) However as someone who had to fundamentally change - to the point where I have trouble understanding my motivations as the person I was previously - it is possible. The problem is that someone has to have the insight that there is a problem, have the tools to address it, and then implement the healthier / more effective persona.

As they say in some of the circles I move in: doing the obvious isn't your fault, but once you understand it is present and how it impacts you and others, it is your responsibility to correct.

I was reading our coronavirus thread from a few years ago, and saw that Aardvark posted this.

[quote]Ever get the feeling that the parents understand but just don't want to change their habits. They would rather play dice with death than modify a lifelong pattern of behavior. I feel lucky because my mom is already 1/4 hermit. She only goes out on Tuesdays for her mail and the library and Saturdays for light shopping. Before the pandemic she wouldn't go out socially with us more than once a month as her 'dance card was full'.[/quote]

I am four and a half years older than when that thread started and after the last four and a half years..... [i]I get it.[/i]

I'm not saying people 30 years older than we were at the time were right about everything.

But some of it? I get it.