Ice Cream Jonsey wrote:RetroRomper wrote:Since 2007, there is a stagnation that has set in where its more an obligation and chore to keep interest alive... Its work as opposed to coming home and being able to relax, guilt trips as opposed to genuine interest.
I need about a three month vacation from on-line forums. I haven't taken it because I am worried that there will be nothing left to return to.
I can understand abandonment issues.
I used to run the Humor List on the University of Georgia's Listserv back around 1994. I got into it by accident. The moderator - although that would be an overstatement - who ran the list was taking a six month sabbatical through the middle of nowhere (meaning: places like India and that part of the world) where Internet access was spotty or non-existent. He needed some people to take over running the list.
Anyone could read the list or subscribe, but to be able to post jokes you had to take a test, basically that you understood the rules: (1) posts to be less than 101 lines; if longer, include a URL for people to go to for the rest. (2) that you know how to subscribe and unsubscribe so you don't send unsubscribe or other non-jokes to the list; (3) jokes must be clean or you have to state that they are or could be offensive in the title or the first line of the message (and the warning itself must not be offensive); (4) one posting per day.
If you said you knew the rules you got approved. And it worked fairly well. So the moderator who was doing this was going on sabbatical and if someone didn't want to do it, he'd have to shut the list down for six months, which would probably have killed it. I and five or six other people applied for the job, so we all got administrator access. But nobody else wanted to do the work, so I ended up doing it.
So I pretended I took over the list in a bloodless coup, and referred to myself, not as the moderator, but as "The Junta Leader of the Humor List," as I'd essentially taken over by fiat and lack of interest by anyone else.
I'll skip some of the stories about the things that happened while running the list unless someone asks.
Ice Cream Jonsey wrote:With Tdarcos being encouraged to post on Caltrops, I think maybe this creeping lethargy extends to many of the old hang outs but in any case
It does.
And I'll say this: I just don't get people.
Not: I just don't get YOU people. But I don't get people.
It ain't hard to figure out people. You just have to realize one thing: most, perhaps nearly all people, are internally conflicted because they don't know how to think. They hold to what George Orwell called in
1984, "Doublethink." They tend, on multiple issues, to believe in two contradictory concepts at the same time. This slows down one's ability to think; if you're very bright, you may even see it in yourself.
I did realize I had problems thinking at times, and until I figured what was wrong and got it fixed, I suffered with knowing that I sometimes had problems thinking, on occasion it was like trying to think through molasses. Then I discovered the answer and fixed it simply by rearranging my thinking to stop the problem. More details later if anyone is interested.
Ice Cream Jonsey wrote:Every other forum I go to, the moderation is strict and snotty. There is in-line editing of people's posts. There are bans for no real reason. There are rules like "no mod sass." There are deleted posts.
It's said that "academic politics are so vicious because the stakes are so small." So the ability to run something because you have a bit of power can bring out the Napoleon in just about anyone. It didn't in my case when running the UGA Humor List because I treated it as something to do and a place to have fun, not as a means to make other people miserable or exercise power trips on my part, although at the time I probably never realized it. I also ran the list as sort of a "role" where I pretended to be this power-hungry tyrant who ran the list for fun and profit, by such comments as "To be allowed to post on the humor list you either have to show you read the rules or be prepared to offer the Junta Leader substantial bribes," and "I thought your comment was so bad I'm cancelling your access. Not to the Humor List, but to the Internet. After you finish reading this message you will discover once you log off your account you can no longer log on." Not true of course, but the whole idea was to be funny.
Ice Cream Jonsey wrote:I run two sites with the understanding that adults like being treated like adults. And it has proven to be the absolute last thing anyone writing posts on the Internet is interested in.
I think someone said if you combine ability to say anything without having to hear or face the other plus anonymity = ideal conditions for bad behavior.
I mean, when people ask for advice on Yahoo Answers (and sometimes they'd ask extremely personal questions they wouldn't dare say if you knew them because they'd be embarrassed to have neighbors know this about them), I always hit them with both barrels, no holding back and sometimes with blunt honesty.
It might not be how I'd talk to someone face-to-face but the fact is, I give my opinions but I'm not rude or nasty. So perhaps I'm not usual. I never criticize anyone over their choices, I just point out why some things they would choose might be a bad idea,
but if they were going to make that choice here is what they should know. (This, for example, was the sort of tone I would use for a girl who claimed she was anything from 12-14 if she said she was considering having sex, I'd tell her it's a bad idea for a number of reasons (which I would give), but, if you are going to (among other things I'd mention), please insist he use barrier contraception, which means a condom. If 15-16 I'd say that a lot of girls claim they wish they hadn't started earlier but again, here's what you have to be concerned about. If 16-17 I'd also mention the risks involved and also point out that if you're going to do this keep your mouth shut and keep things private and quiet if you're in one of the states where the age of consent is above your age lest your boyfriend end up getting prison time if your parents object.)
Now, one time I gave one young lady the exact opposite advice everyone else would. She was planning to have her first time with her boyfriend which she had known for a while (several months), and did plan to use condoms even though she was on the pill. She claimed both of them were virgins and didn't have any diseases, but she worried about her boyfriend potentially cheating on her.
So I suggested instead, if both these conditions were true, that she's already using contraception and he doesn't have a disease, that she do something different. Allow him to have sex with her, bare. (She could use an extra form of contraception like foam or a diaphragm as backup protection) then let him know that he could have her any time he wants, he can have sex with her bare, but that's subject to two conditions: (1) he only have sex with her, and (2) he talks to her first if he wants to change this. This gives her an advantage he has with no other woman; he can have sex with her bare, he knows he can't catch anything from her and she isn't going to get pregnant. None of these would necessarily be possible with someone else and thus this could solve her problem.
I don't know if I could be this honest with some young lady who asked me this in person.
Ice Cream Jonsey wrote:I guess that's why I don't feel I can take a break from it. The people I would be avoiding are, by my definition, the only people on the net smart enough to not need to be micromanaged by admin/mod pieces of shit. I mean, look at that SC2 forum. The people administering it are garbage.
I will say that I have long maintained that nobody can keep anything on the Internet except me. So no matter what happens, I will never delete (or really move) the contents of JC and Caltrops.
Someone once said the only way you can guarantee something will get done (on time, correctly, and/or at all) is if you do it yourself. I once took a bus, a metro train, a MARC train and a bus to take an important letter to an office in downtown Baltimore (65 miles away) rather than mail it.
What's ridiculous is I can get to downtown Baltimore, 65 miles away, in less than two hours by public transit, but to go 12 miles to the county seat in Upper Marlboro takes at least three hours each way.
[quote="Ice Cream Jonsey"][quote="RetroRomper"]Since 2007, there is a stagnation that has set in where its more an obligation and chore to keep interest alive... Its work as opposed to coming home and being able to relax, guilt trips as opposed to genuine interest.[/quote]
I need about a three month vacation from on-line forums. I haven't taken it because I am worried that there will be nothing left to return to. [/quote]
I can understand abandonment issues.
I used to run the Humor List on the University of Georgia's Listserv back around 1994. I got into it by accident. The moderator - although that would be an overstatement - who ran the list was taking a six month sabbatical through the middle of nowhere (meaning: places like India and that part of the world) where Internet access was spotty or non-existent. He needed some people to take over running the list.
Anyone could read the list or subscribe, but to be able to post jokes you had to take a test, basically that you understood the rules: (1) posts to be less than 101 lines; if longer, include a URL for people to go to for the rest. (2) that you know how to subscribe and unsubscribe so you don't send unsubscribe or other non-jokes to the list; (3) jokes must be clean or you have to state that they are or could be offensive in the title or the first line of the message (and the warning itself must not be offensive); (4) one posting per day.
If you said you knew the rules you got approved. And it worked fairly well. So the moderator who was doing this was going on sabbatical and if someone didn't want to do it, he'd have to shut the list down for six months, which would probably have killed it. I and five or six other people applied for the job, so we all got administrator access. But nobody else wanted to do the work, so I ended up doing it.
So I pretended I took over the list in a bloodless coup, and referred to myself, not as the moderator, but as "The Junta Leader of the Humor List," as I'd essentially taken over by fiat and lack of interest by anyone else.
I'll skip some of the stories about the things that happened while running the list unless someone asks.
[quote="Ice Cream Jonsey"][quote]With Tdarcos being encouraged to post on Caltrops, I think maybe this creeping lethargy extends to many of the old hang outs but in any case[/quote]
It does.
And I'll say this: I just don't get people.
Not: I just don't get YOU people. But I don't get people.[/quote]
It ain't hard to figure out people. You just have to realize one thing: most, perhaps nearly all people, are internally conflicted because they don't know how to think. They hold to what George Orwell called in [i]1984[/i], "Doublethink." They tend, on multiple issues, to believe in two contradictory concepts at the same time. This slows down one's ability to think; if you're very bright, you may even see it in yourself.
I did realize I had problems thinking at times, and until I figured what was wrong and got it fixed, I suffered with knowing that I sometimes had problems thinking, on occasion it was like trying to think through molasses. Then I discovered the answer and fixed it simply by rearranging my thinking to stop the problem. More details later if anyone is interested.
[quote="Ice Cream Jonsey"]Every other forum I go to, the moderation is strict and snotty. There is in-line editing of people's posts. There are bans for no real reason. There are rules like "no mod sass." There are deleted posts.[/quote]
It's said that "academic politics are so vicious because the stakes are so small." So the ability to run something because you have a bit of power can bring out the Napoleon in just about anyone. It didn't in my case when running the UGA Humor List because I treated it as something to do and a place to have fun, not as a means to make other people miserable or exercise power trips on my part, although at the time I probably never realized it. I also ran the list as sort of a "role" where I pretended to be this power-hungry tyrant who ran the list for fun and profit, by such comments as "To be allowed to post on the humor list you either have to show you read the rules or be prepared to offer the Junta Leader substantial bribes," and "I thought your comment was so bad I'm cancelling your access. Not to the Humor List, but to the Internet. After you finish reading this message you will discover once you log off your account you can no longer log on." Not true of course, but the whole idea was to be funny.
[quote="Ice Cream Jonsey"]I run two sites with the understanding that adults like being treated like adults. And it has proven to be the absolute last thing anyone writing posts on the Internet is interested in.[/quote]
I think someone said if you combine ability to say anything without having to hear or face the other plus anonymity = ideal conditions for bad behavior.
I mean, when people ask for advice on Yahoo Answers (and sometimes they'd ask extremely personal questions they wouldn't dare say if you knew them because they'd be embarrassed to have neighbors know this about them), I always hit them with both barrels, no holding back and sometimes with blunt honesty.
It might not be how I'd talk to someone face-to-face but the fact is, I give my opinions but I'm not rude or nasty. So perhaps I'm not usual. I never criticize anyone over their choices, I just point out why some things they would choose might be a bad idea, [b]but[/b] if they were going to make that choice here is what they should know. (This, for example, was the sort of tone I would use for a girl who claimed she was anything from 12-14 if she said she was considering having sex, I'd tell her it's a bad idea for a number of reasons (which I would give), but, if you are going to (among other things I'd mention), please insist he use barrier contraception, which means a condom. If 15-16 I'd say that a lot of girls claim they wish they hadn't started earlier but again, here's what you have to be concerned about. If 16-17 I'd also mention the risks involved and also point out that if you're going to do this keep your mouth shut and keep things private and quiet if you're in one of the states where the age of consent is above your age lest your boyfriend end up getting prison time if your parents object.)
Now, one time I gave one young lady the exact opposite advice everyone else would. She was planning to have her first time with her boyfriend which she had known for a while (several months), and did plan to use condoms even though she was on the pill. She claimed both of them were virgins and didn't have any diseases, but she worried about her boyfriend potentially cheating on her.
So I suggested instead, if both these conditions were true, that she's already using contraception and he doesn't have a disease, that she do something different. Allow him to have sex with her, bare. (She could use an extra form of contraception like foam or a diaphragm as backup protection) then let him know that he could have her any time he wants, he can have sex with her bare, but that's subject to two conditions: (1) he only have sex with her, and (2) he talks to her first if he wants to change this. This gives her an advantage he has with no other woman; he can have sex with her bare, he knows he can't catch anything from her and she isn't going to get pregnant. None of these would necessarily be possible with someone else and thus this could solve her problem.
I don't know if I could be this honest with some young lady who asked me this in person.
[quote="Ice Cream Jonsey"]I guess that's why I don't feel I can take a break from it. The people I would be avoiding are, by my definition, the only people on the net smart enough to not need to be micromanaged by admin/mod pieces of shit. I mean, look at that SC2 forum. The people administering it are garbage.
I will say that I have long maintained that nobody can keep anything on the Internet except me. So no matter what happens, I will never delete (or really move) the contents of JC and Caltrops.[/quote]
Someone once said the only way you can guarantee something will get done (on time, correctly, and/or at all) is if you do it yourself. I once took a bus, a metro train, a MARC train and a bus to take an important letter to an office in downtown Baltimore (65 miles away) rather than mail it.
What's ridiculous is I can get to downtown Baltimore, 65 miles away, in less than two hours by public transit, but to go 12 miles to the county seat in Upper Marlboro takes at least three hours each way.