[quote=bryanb post_id=140299 time=1699298144 user_id=2003]CO and his wife are getting along really well[/quote]weeelll, not sure I'd go that far

I take a little break and then come back to find out Retro has returned to the BBS, CO and his wife are getting along really well, and Paul has a new love interest. I totally switched timelines, didn't I?

[quote=AArdvark post_id=140155 time=1698708015 user_id=20]
Well if the wedding is off then I'm sending the cutlery set back
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That's fine, since I'm not allowed to have a knife anyway. Personally, I'd have preferred lead crystal or a set of china. I'm old-fashioned when it comes to wedding gifts.

Well if the wedding is off then I'm sending the cutlery set back

[quote=Flack post_id=139952 time=1697738159 user_id=840]
Obviously you know this is unacceptable behavior or you wouldn't be worried about "narc'ing." [/quote]
No, I did not think it was unacceptable. If nothing else, I thought it was silly. But if I was going to report someone, I'd have reported the aide who cheated me out of $42.
[quote=Flack post_id=139952 time=1697738159 user_id=840]
And if you don't think telling your caregivers that you want to "sample their goods" is misconduct then... wow.[/quote]
Works both ways, if my response is misconduct, well, hers would have been far worse. But I treated it as a silly statement, so I responded in kind.

After throwing me out, and I'm suing them for unlawful retaliation, my lawyer can question them during a deposition:
[b]Lawyer[/b]: So, let me get this straight, you said he sexually harassed an aide there and that is why you evicted him?
[b]Administrator[/b]: Yes.
[b]Lawyer[/b]: What did he say?
[b]Administrator[/b]: He asked her to have sex with him.
[b]Lawyer[/b]: What exactly did he say?
[b]Administrator[/b]: He said he'd like to "sample the merchandise."
[b]Lawyer[/b]: Didn't he say he would have to sample the merchandise, first?
[b]Administrator[/b]: Yes.
[b]Lawyer[/b]: Was this a response to something an aide said, first?
[b]Administrator[/b]: Yes.
[b]Lawyer[/b]: Was it because the Aide treating him told him she wanted him to marry her?
[b]Administrator[/b]: Yes.
[b]Lawyer[/b]: So, could it be one of your people initiated a conversation in which she was harassing him first, and, rather than suing your organization, he took it as a joke?
[b]Administrator[/b]: I don't know.
[b]Lawyer[/b]: So let me ask you, wasn't his eviction because you wanted to make him look unbelievable if he sued for harassment?
[b]Administrator's lawyer[/b]: Objection!
[b]Lawyer[/b]: I withdraw the question. Nothing further.

[quote=Flack post_id=139952 time=1697738159 user_id=840]
I fall for this every time, thinking you are willing or even capable of understanding these things. Here's my challenge to you -- reach out to a few people outside that nursing home and not on the BBS and find someone who thinks this is a good idea. Go to a website that knows what HIPPA stands for or what Vulnerable Adult Abuse is and ask them if this is ethical, moral, or legal behavour on her part. I'll sit back and wait for that to happen.
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Actually, it's HIPAA. HIPPA is probably the pet name a zoo has for one of the female hippos.

You know, the world is not always black and white, there are shades of gray. I joke around with the staff all the time. There is a difference between harmless banter and abuse. That which is abuse should inflict pain or suffering, or be insulting, humiliating, or bothersome. Abuse is in the eye of the beholder. Some parents spank their children for misbehavior. Some might consider that child abuse. If I was in the slightest way made uncomfortable, unhappy, depressed, or in pain, I would have done something about it.

Hell, if we want to talk "elder abuse," how about the three or four times a day I get stabbed in the finger so they can take a blood sugar reading, or the 2-3 times a day they stab me in the gut with a needle to give me insulin? Those things hurt! You're right, that is elder abuse, I need to do something about it! Oh wait, what? If they didn't do these things, I'd have major medical problems and might even die? Oh.

(In Emily Litella voice) Never mind.

I want a pic of the chick. And her email.

So what wedding plans have you made so far?

I assume she'll be wearing white...

You had your chance. I am out.

[quote=pinback post_id=140030 time=1698087507 user_id=5]
I saw it many years ago, but do not recall any of the particulars.

Was it as funny as Jaws?
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I thought so, yes.

ICJ, we haven't been helpful to you regarding your "what about bob" decisionmaking process. It is actually really funny in a lot of ways. First, Bill Murray. Period. He improvises most of his characters and clearly not only did he improvise this one but the fact that one of Dreyfus' best lines isn't in the script tells me that he was probably infectous on the set, making everyone funnier. Julie Haggerty from Airplane is the wife and is always funny. The dynamic between Bob and Dreyfus versus Bob and everyone else is the core conflict of the movie but there are gags in every scene. I put What about Bob in the catagory of movies that I'll always be able to watch again including Caddyshack, John Candy movies, and most things National Lampoon.

Thanks for the explanation as to what "What About Bob?" is. I am content with my decision-making to never encounter it and never in the future encounter it.

I saw it many years ago, but do not recall any of the particulars.

Was it as funny as Jaws?

[quote="Ice Cream Jonsey" post_id=140026 time=1698071079 user_id=3]
[quote="Casual Observer" post_id=139977 time=1697905706 user_id=77]
Did nobody get the "What about Bob" reference?
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I did not. What is that?
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Wow, you've missed a few movies, huh.

Pinback, you're a Jaws lover, please tell me you've seen another funny Richard Dreyfuss movie??


(I was going to explain the reference but apparently the scene I'm referencing must have been mostly improv because one of the best lines in the movie isn't in the script)

[quote="Casual Observer" post_id=139977 time=1697905706 user_id=77]
Did nobody get the "What about Bob" reference?
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I did not. What is that?

[quote="Casual Observer" post_id=139977 time=1697905706 user_id=77]
Did nobody get the "What about Bob" reference?
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LOL

Did nobody get the "What about Bob" reference?

[quote="Casual Observer" post_id=139967 time=1697830269 user_id=77]
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You seem to be misunderstanding me. I did not ask her to marry me, I didn't ask her for [i]anything[/i], therefore she did not 'deny' me anything. If I'm not interested in buying a new car, but despite the fact I have almost no money and no use for one, some car salesman proceeds to tell me he can put me into a brand-new Cadillac and will guarantee financing, I don't take him seriously, exactly how is it that when the car dealer is insulted because I thought he was kidding and withdraws the offer, that he has chosen to 'deny' me something? You can't be "denied" something you were not interested in, didn't want, or could not use in the first place.

All of the characteristics you ascribed to me, morbidly obese, missing half a leg, and living in a nursing home are spot on. So exactly how, when some pretty aide who is aware of all these things, says "we're gonna get married" as if it was a [i]fait accompli[/i], do I take that seriously?

Les says she's attracted to my personality. Maybe because I am unfailingly polite. I might not always remember to say 'please' when I make requests, I almost always say thank you when someone does something for me. But seriously, that's not enough to hang something as serious as marriage on. Presuming I was even interested in getting married in the first place, which I was not.

I told Les that I'm glad I didn't take her seriously, in which case I might have tried to let her down easy by lying to her and saying I could not marry a black lady. (I remember at least one lady I took out on a date happened to mention she really could not date a black man.) That would have branded me a racist, not a good thing to be (or even to be thought of) in a facility of mostly black employees. Besides that, I don't consider lying to be a good idea; it's too easy to forget the lies you have told.

[img]https://i.imgflip.com/83a4sh.jpg[/img]

Mutant Ninja Phymosis Turtles!

It's NOT a kids cartoon show

Is she capable of holding a camera for more cooking videos?

It's morally and ethically repugnant of her to propose marriage to someone in her care. It is not illegal for managers to date subordinates, and yet it is frowned upon by (let me check) every company on the planet. Teachers can legally date 18 year old students and there's not a school district that wouldn't fire them immediately for doing so. Obviously you know this is unacceptable behavior or you wouldn't be worried about "narc'ing." And if you don't think telling your caregivers that you want to "sample their goods" is misconduct then... wow.

I fall for this every time, thinking you are willing or even capable of understanding these things. Here's my challenge to you -- reach out to a few people outside that nursing home and not on the BBS and find someone who thinks this is a good idea. Go to a website that knows what HIPPA stands for or what Vulnerable Adult Abuse is and ask them if this is ethical, moral, or legal behavour on her part. I'll sit back and wait for that to happen.