Now a different aide. Bryma, says he wants to take me to China. I point out to him that is not a good idea, because of the country's bad practices and the descent back into Mao Zedong's style of brutal repression. I mean, we both know he's kidding.
And I know, if a woman told me she'd fallen in love with me under this sort of circumstnce, that she'd be kidding. So I took Paulina's claim she wanted to get married as a joke. So, I said this is unlikely for me because I would have to "sample the merchandise" first. My roommate Les knew exactly what I meant, and I expected her to understand how ridiculous that requirement is. Here's why.
I have incontinence, at least to the extent I no longer have control of my bowels. This means I wear a diaper. I can hold my water and use a urinal, which means since I have to have access to my genitals, because, remember, I'm lying flat on my back in a hospital bed; to get the liquid into the urinal requires it encapsulate my penis. So the diaper's straps cannot be fastened, it has to remain open. Now, I also have phymosis, or "collapsed penis" in which the penis falls back into its base, leaving the head stuck within the skin, the way a turtle's head falls back into its shell. This combination of using a diaper, not being able to fasten it shut, and phymosis, means anyone who can see me I'm basically naked from the waist down.
Now, since any of the aides visiting me, and especially those cleaning me and changing my diaper are clearly able to see my collapsed penis, Therefore, I would expect her to realize there is no way I could have sex with her, therefore "sampling the merchandise" would obviously be impossible.
But, apparently she wasn't kidding about her feelings. She also claims - something I find a bit hard to believe - that she never looked at my genitals. Well, she got mad at me. Not that she's not going to do her job, just that she is unhappy about the whole thing, I decided to try and let her see why the request was ridiculous from the start, by asking one simple question.
What do I get out of it? Or, in simpler terms, why should I want to get married? What benefits do I receive? Marriage has to be a two-way street; there have to be benefits for both parties. Otherwise, it's not marriage, it's slavery and/or exploitation.
To no surprise on my part, she really could not come up with any reasons. She was also unhappy at the fact I wanted a reason. She probably never thought of that. Then again, she wanted to get married to me, so her thought processes are probably not that advanced anyway.
And the married men here are not going to like this, but today, marriage and divorce laws are so biased to favor women and penalize men, that too often marriage can be a huge risk, at least for a man, such that the risks are too high. I encourage you to watch the following video - it's only 15 minutes - then answer one question:
Is there anything the man talking said (and possibly the man reacting) that was Wrong?
