Tdarcos wrote:No, I think when you became unable to control your temper and resorted to epithets and cursing, you showed that you lack the emotional maturity to discuss this as a reasonable human being.
If you find a single person here who agrees with you, I'll donate $100 to the charity of your choice.
I may have made a mistake
Saying terrible things about a person who isn't here, who is a loved one of your "friend" Pinback: MAYBE a mistake. Tdarcos isn't going to commit himself just yet.
but you went off the rails and made it worse instead of remaining calm.
I made it worse? By talking in the same manner that everyone says everything around here? ?!
You should remember that, no matter how bad an incident is, if you allow someone else to get you mad, you lose, and you lose badly.
You know who says that? Autistic Internet nerds who can't come up with creative insults and try to frame everything like they were by BZZT BZZT BEE BOOP emotionless computer people.
Keeping your temper gives you lots more power in a discussion, or in any situation.
You're a maggot.
It also gives you the advantage that you can fake anger or other emotional outbursts if you need them without actually making yourself upset. It took me a
long time to learn this.
How long will it take you to understand the human concept of "funny"? I mean, ballpark it.
Okay, since this is serious business, please explain how and why. Do not wimp out by saying that it's common knowledge or that it's routine behavior, that tells me nothing and indicates you have no factual basis to explain your ideas.
SERIOUS MODE ON:
She isn't here to defend herself, she didn't do or say anything to you and she is a loved one of somebody here. More, unlike making a "yo mama" joke, the entire concept hasn't been turned into a cliche.
It's not OK to say terrible things about savvyraven under these conditions.
Now... if she was a regular poster here and there was a long history of her busting our balls and the bunch of us busting her balls*, then it would be different. But that's not the case here.
*Do not make whatever comment you were going to make about women not having balls. It will be unfunny, so just let it go as a figure of speech.
SERIOUS MODE OFF
Also, do not say that I should know; I don't have to 'should' anything and if you use that phrasing it also means you can't define why you find the conduct unacceptable.
I am perfectly happy to explain stuff like this when you ask and I would never make fun of you for it when you ask sincerely.
Realize, I'm a handicapped loaner living in a room. I have no friends.
We don't consider you a loaner, Paul.
We consider you keepsies.
Otherwise, if it's that bad but you can't explain why, perhaps it's better I walk away and quit posting here; if I can't understand or know what the appropriate behavior is, best I don't continue and maybe do something worse. So, I need to know so I can understand.
As noted above, I will always be happy to explain why.
Also, please remember that you're one of us, Paul. You are accepted for who you are here. This isn't a community you have to walk away from.